Are you and your partner …
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feeling stuck in an unhappy and loveless marriage
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living with persistent conflicts in your relationship
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unable to communicate and feeling emotionally isolated
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having issues of explosive anger in an abusive relationship
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going through any traumatic emotional crisis
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torn asunder by emotional and sexual infidelity
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in distress contemplating separation or divorce
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having anxiety over your children caught in the trauma of infidelity
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desiring to find closeness and closure while facing a terminal illness
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in need of pre-marital relationship counselling
You don’t have to go through it alone, I can help you ... Let's meet
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Hi, I am Richard Goh
Principal Counsellor of Integrative Couples Therapy Clinic based in Singapore (BizReg No. 53085263B). I am a Registered Counsellor with the Singapore Association for Counselling (Clinical Member CO248). I have a Masters degree in Social Science in Professional Counselling and I am trained in several evidence-based therapeutic modalities, including advanced training in the Gottman Method of Couples Therapy and Integrative Systemic Therapy. I am a Certified Educator to deliver "The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work" program by the Gottman Institute. My counselling approach is both intuitive and emphatic while integrating several evidence based therapies to effectively meet the unique needs of my clients.
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I am passionate and experienced in counselling troubled individuals, couples and families in distress. I provide counselling in healing relationships, first within the self and then with each other in the family. I bring couples torn asunder by an extramarital affair through a process that offers hope and healing in dealing with the betrayal. I provide therapeutic support to the parent with concerns about their children while going through the trauma of infidelity or after a breakup.
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For couples preparing for marriage, I can offer a Relationship Checkup Tool that provides detailed clinical feedback and suggestions on the strengths and challenges of their relationships. This is followed by specific recommendations and counselling interventions to prepare and enrich the couples commitment to each other. I will guide couples in a programme that will enhance their intimacy, communication, conflict management and on creating shared goals for their life together.
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Happy Couples Follow These Principles
Build Friendship and Trust
Be Responsive to Each Other
Show Fondness and Admiration
Be Open to His/Her Influence
Get Through Gridlock Conflict
Create Shared Dreams
Some Myths About Marriage
Myth - Avoiding conflict will ruin your marriage. It's all about having open and honest communication.
"Couples simply have different styles of conflict. Some avoid fights at all costs, some fight a lot, and some are able to 'talk out' their differences and find a compromise without ever raising their voices. No one style is necessarily better than the other - as long as the style works for both people. Couples can run into trouble if one partner always wants to talk out a conflict while the other just wants to watch the playoffs."
John Gottman
- The Seven Principles For Making Marriage Work
Myth - The idea that there is a soul mate out there for you. That you can and should find a such a nurturing soulmate who will satisfy all your needs.
" The message is reinforced in adolescence when the hormones take over and sexual activity becomes a great source of nurturance. Let's face it: sex itself is comforting and reassuring. When the selection is eventually made for a lifelong comforter - wife - the stage is set for ultimate disappointment. All the women of the world cannot meet all the needs for nurturance in a man."
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Dave Carder
- Torn Asunder 'Recovering from an Extramarital Affair'
Myth - He can do his thing and she can do her thing and they don't really need to have any common recreational interests to be happy together.
" When spouses are not each other's favourite recreational companion, not only do they risk losing their love for each other, but they also risk falling in love with whoever turns out to be their companion. If you want to have a fulfilling marriage, your favourite recreational companion must be your spouse."
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Willard F. Harley
- His Needs, Her Needs 'Building an Affair Proof Marriage'.